10 tips to develop your sexuality
It's essential to know yourself and understand what you're capable of creating, transmitting and sharing during sex. Why is this? Because it's much more than an act between two people. You can create a paradigm, a language and an energy all your own. The reason I'm sharing this article with you is because the " Amplify your sexuality " conference will give you all the notions you need in detail; but also to enable those who won't be there to open their minds to the field of possibility.
As long as you continue to consume without question, you will continue to absorb a part of the other and lose your own identity.
Who do you want to be? Do you want to develop your full potential and discover unparalleled pleasure? Do you realize that you are only using a small part of your abilities?
In this article I'm going to share with you 10 essential notions you need to know to take your thoughts and knowledge a step further. If you consult this article before April 13, 2025, then I'll see you at our 4-hour online conference with a notebook, as it will be rich in transmission.
Before going any further, if you don't know me, I'm Hélène, Holistic Traditherapist. I specialize in uterine, intestinal and general health care, and my aim is to sublimate your Being through energies, nutrition, phytotherapy and much more.
1 - Be 100% authentic during intercourse
For a REAL connection and experience, you absolutely must be authentic. So, it sounds obvious when you put it like that, but believe me, a lot plays a role in intimacy. Being authentic isn't that easy. It means:
- Don't be ashamed of yourself
- Communicate sufficiently to set limits
- Accept having a different body and showing it off fully
- Be free to say, be and do what you want (with respect for others)
- Don't play a role or think you're a character
- Accepting your weaknesses and strengths
- Letting go without fear
- Showing vulnerability
- Healing traumas and wounds to be yourself
There's also something to consider: transgenerational or personal traumas. You may have attitudes, behaviors or thought patterns that are not your own. Every trauma leaves an imprint on you, and it's your responsibility to discover who you really are. The more you sort out what's been passed on to you and what you've experienced, the more authentic you'll become.
The freedom to be 100% yourself is an affordable luxury that can literally change your life.
2 - Pay more attention to your body
Hormonal imbalances, endocrine disruptors, the environment, etc., are all detrimental to your sexual ability. You're not 100% in control of what your body does. To understand it better and optimize its performance, you need to take several factors into account:
- Hormonal imbalances
- Nutrition and supplements
- Deficiency or overdose
- Environment
- Endocrine disruptors
- Underwear too tight
- etc...
Each of these elements can have a negative impact on your sexual performance.
For men, erectile dysfunction can occur. Premature ejaculation is the most common. In women, severe dryness can occur, leading to severe pain during penetration.
To develop your sexuality, you need to analyze what can affect you in your environment or daily habits.
3 - Know your erogenous zones
The erogenous zones are divided into 3 parts: Primary, secondary and erotic.
These areas can be stimulated by what I call CSM: caress, breath and massage.
Why am I telling you this? Intimate relations begin before penetration. There are a multitude of ways to awaken your senses and stimulate your connection and complicity with your partner. You can reach orgasm through CSM, without any penetration. That's right! The more you learn to stimulate them, the more creative you'll become.
By developing your senses, you'll multiply everything you've ever known before.
I'll detail all these areas for you at the conference, so don't worry.
4 - Listen to yourself and work on yourself
- N°1: if you feel a lack of visceral energy, as if you weren't in control during intercourse, a feeling of heaviness or exhaustion before, during and afterwards
- N°2: If sexuality is experienced as an obligation or duty rather than a moment of pleasure and connection
- N°3: If you have a feeling of being turned off inside without any apparent explanation
It's important to understand why you feel X number of emotions/sensations before going any further in your intimacy. The more introspective phases you have, helping your mind to evolve, the better you'll enable your body to function/appreciate the act.
Agree to work on yourself.
5 - Tribulus terrestris: the complement of sexuality
Food supplements are your friends. Don't banish them by telling yourself they're for other people. No, they're for everyone looking to develop their potential and experience. And don't forget that a multitude of factors can have an impact on your sexuality. While you're getting everything you need in place, enjoy what nature has to offer.
Tribulus terrestris contributes to :
- Increase libido and sexual energy
- Stimulate desire naturally by improving sensitivity to sexual stimuli
- Counteract libido slumps linked to stress, fatigue or hormonal imbalances.
- Increase vitality and stamina
- Improves resistance to fatigue and enhances recovery after exercise
- Reinforce hormonal balance
- Boost mood and self-confidence
Here are 7 benefits that I think will give your intimacy a boost.
Dosages depend on brands and needs, so don't hesitate to ask me your questions in comments or by email.
6 - Make the most of your abilities
Desire fluctuates, relationships evolve, and sometimes, even with the best person, there's still something missing.
What allows you to have a truly fulfilled sexuality is your energy source, your magnetism, your knowledge of non-verbal communication, your vision of pleasure, and the knowledge of your full power.
All these notions are untapped. You will continue to move forward with a skewed vision of your sexuality, as long as you don't make room for your own energies.
7 - Choose your partner carefully
I've decided to share some feedback from a couple who attended my last Amplify Your Sexuality conference.
At the previous conference, there was a couple who loved each other more than anything else, but who lived in 2 opposing realities. Not the same upbringing, not the same family pattern, not the same professional and personal ambitions on certain points.
We'd talked before the conference and during it, and after it, their relationship had taken on a new dimension that some wouldn't have bet on.
They shared with me that, by learning to communicate without words through tantrism, breathing together and positively nourishing each other's energy, they had simply succeeded in creating a union in their paradigm that helped them overcome the difficulties of everyday life. By communicating without words, they eventually learned to really communicate with the right words.
It's been a beautiful gift to share with them, so I wanted to share this feedback with you so you can create your own paradigm too.
8 - Know your sexual archetypes
Just as there are different personalities, there are different sexual archetypes.
Understanding who you really are can help you enormously in understanding your actions and thought patterns related to intimacy. So what are they?
- The lover - The sensual one
- La sauvage - Le sauvage
- The mystical - The spiritual
- The mother - The nurturing father
- The dominant - The leader
- L'Innocent.e - The enchanter
- The witch - The magician
- The Intellectual.le
What is your predominant personality, and what aspect do you keep buried inside yourself out of fear, shame or ignorance of the subject? By attending this Sunday's conference, you'll discover the ebook I've prepared for you 🙂 With the help of a quiz, you'll understand who you really are, and what you can achieve. You'll also get all the details on each of its archetypes.
This test is a real nugget for taking another look at yourself and your expectations, so I hope you'll do it.
9 - Take time to heal
Mutilation, aggression, trauma, physical and emotional violence - everything you've ever experienced has left an imprint on you. However, it is entirely possible for you to free yourself from all these imprints and regain 100% control of your body and energies, so that you never again submit to the other person.
It's important to know that with real work on your energetic foundation, your identity and your emotions, you'll give yourself the chance to redefine yourself and establish your own rules, including in sexuality.
There are no universal rules when it comes to sexuality. When we understand and become aware of what it really is, and what it represents, we discover an infinite playground in which everyone can play their cards in complete safety.
10 - The only limit is you
When it comes to intimacy, many people do things out of mechanism, curiosity or passivity. You perform the act without asking yourself: What is it possible for me to create and feel through my intimacy, if I let go of all my limiting beliefs?
Well, if this is the case for you, it's simply because you're not aware of your abilities, you lack self-confidence and you don't feel comfortable and free enough to listen to your intuition and create alchemy to the rhythm of this union.
To develop your sexuality, you need to understand that the biggest limits are inside you. Have you chosen the right partner with whom you feel comfortable enough? Do you have the space to communicate and make room for your desires? Are you in tune with your body and mind to feel free to be you? Are you curious and ready for new experiences? When will you stop comparing yourself?
The only limit is you!
By now you're familiar with my 10 tips for developing your sexuality. By becoming aware of each of the elements presented, you'll finally be able to experience unparalleled sensations, emotions and connection.
Hélène - Holistic Traditherapist